I've been running into one particular misunderstanding a lot. I'm going to write out what I think is the antidote as a bulletpointed list.
-The fact that you're being abused doesn't keep you from being abusive.
-The fact that other people exercise unfair power over you actually makes it more likely that there's someone you're exercising unfair power over.
-Being aware that this is a thing can help with not perpetuating it.
-Asserting "you're not being abused! What's happening to me is way worse!" is the opposite of helpful.
-Often, it makes the other person feel like they have to challenge the importance of your abuse to prove that what's happening to them is worth bringing up or caring about.
-A lot of people who are being abused and exploited in different ways antagonize each other with this kind of misdirected anger.
-We need to acknowledge that people whose struggles are different from ours have valid struggles, and face real injustices, without letting the conversation turn into a false dichotomy where abuse against a particular group is the only abuse worth talking about.
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Am I spamming your reading page in the process of importing long posts from my Tumblr? I thought they wouldn't bother anyone because they're backdated, but I don't have much experience with this.
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It's interesting to read them again, anyway. (And yes to this post.)
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