... at Harriet's Fugitivus blog. I love her posts, but sometimes she mooshes together several different, large, related concepts and I want to send people to a particular part and that's not possible because of the way the writing is formatted. I'm putting the part that I share around the most often below. The rest of the post is here.

I Don’t Want To Say I Was Abused Or Raped Because That Cheapens Abuse and Rape/Some Girls Ruin It For The Rest Of Us


Let’s make this simple.

Rape and abuse exist. They’re horrible and they’re wrong.

The only way rape and abuse can be less horrible is if we don’t value the person who is being raped or abused.

Let’s Godwin’s Law this: Hitler is being raped and abused. How much do you care?

Okay, let’s back this up realistically. Your sister is being raped and abused. How much do you care?

A woman who sleeps with a lot of people and callously disregards their feelings is being raped and abused. How much do you care?

A woman who was drinking heavily at the club and hanging off every single guy is being raped and abused. How much do you care?

The only way rape and abuse can be cheapened is if we cheapen the victims. They aren’t cheapened by expanding the definition of victim. If rape and abuse are horrible and wrong, then more victims just equals more horrible and more wrong. But we can cheapen rape and abuse by limiting the definition of victims we give a shit about.Read more... )
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( Aug. 4th, 2014 11:02 pm)

"We have a trick, we do, those of us who work with or otherwise support people with disabilities. We believe in their competence when they are compliant - when they agree with us, when they submit to our authority, when they bow to the hierarchy of the natural order of things. We determine incompetence when they have the temerity to dismiss our opinions as interesting but irrelevant. Yep, we use competence as the reward for compliance and submissiveness."

Excerpted from Dave Hingsburger's blog post, Jenny and Eve and the Statistics of Freedom

And some of the comments were just as insightful, so I'm quoting them too.

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